- Definition for infatuation according to the pocket oxford dictionary: "To have an intense passion for."
- Definition for love according to the pocket oxford dictionary: "a strong feeling of affection."
We have all been there before. Whether you are 14 or 80 you will get these insane crushes, where you start to think that you are falling in love with that person, but is it really love?
Despite those two definitions sounding similar, there is actually a huge difference between the two.
Infatuation, in layman's terms, is nothing more than you having a crush on someone that you don't even know that well but you have fallen for their persona. These infatuations can actually be quite hurtful and obsessive if not dealt with properly. I know plenty of friends who have had their hearts broken simply because the relationship moved too quickly to begin with. A recent incident happened with someone that I knew, she met this guy on our first day of vacation and by the second day they were in a relationship and he was already telling her that she was the love of his life. A little over a week later she broke up with him because he was getting too possesive and in return called her some hurtful names and made her feel bad.
Love is different in the sense that it is more complicated. Too be completely honest, I am 21 now and have never been in love (in a relationship sense). Its a strong word, and I don't believe that it should just be thrown around. We are born to love our family members and love in friendships grows from bonding with that person. Love in a relationship sense, however, is meant to grow like a flower. It starts off with friendship, then from that grows respect and trust and then you learn to love that person for all their positive and negative aspects.
Be careful of using the word "love" as it is so powerful. Don't ever hurry falling in love with someone because it won't last. I personally don't believe in love at first sight as I believe that it is actually infatuation. Some people beliefs about love are different and I respect that, I am simply sharing my advice with you.
Next Monday's Blog: Friends With Benefits: Yay or Nay?
- Heather McIntosh
Despite those two definitions sounding similar, there is actually a huge difference between the two.
Infatuation, in layman's terms, is nothing more than you having a crush on someone that you don't even know that well but you have fallen for their persona. These infatuations can actually be quite hurtful and obsessive if not dealt with properly. I know plenty of friends who have had their hearts broken simply because the relationship moved too quickly to begin with. A recent incident happened with someone that I knew, she met this guy on our first day of vacation and by the second day they were in a relationship and he was already telling her that she was the love of his life. A little over a week later she broke up with him because he was getting too possesive and in return called her some hurtful names and made her feel bad.
Love is different in the sense that it is more complicated. Too be completely honest, I am 21 now and have never been in love (in a relationship sense). Its a strong word, and I don't believe that it should just be thrown around. We are born to love our family members and love in friendships grows from bonding with that person. Love in a relationship sense, however, is meant to grow like a flower. It starts off with friendship, then from that grows respect and trust and then you learn to love that person for all their positive and negative aspects.
Be careful of using the word "love" as it is so powerful. Don't ever hurry falling in love with someone because it won't last. I personally don't believe in love at first sight as I believe that it is actually infatuation. Some people beliefs about love are different and I respect that, I am simply sharing my advice with you.
Next Monday's Blog: Friends With Benefits: Yay or Nay?
- Heather McIntosh
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